My issue is that not all of us just want a child. Some of us, myself included, want to carry and birth a child. If that was completely impossible, we would then have considered adopting. Actually before infertility reared it's ugly stupid-ass head, we had planned on including adoption in our family plan anyway. I don't see that in our plan any longer unless we come into a large sum of money because IVF and other medical related bills have drained the ol' piggy bank of credit.
Speaking of birth ... why is it that having a natural birth is such a foreign idea? Many women have done it and CHOOSE to do it again and again. I've never done it, but if I underestimate what I CAN do, I will never accomplish anything. Anyway, I guess what I'm saying is if you ask and I reply that I don't want an induction or epidural or c-section or episiotomy, and that I want to feel what is going on, don't laugh or look at me like I just sprouted another head. It's rude and insensitive. I know of women that have birthed 10 pound babies naturally with no tearing. What? you say? Yes this is possible with proper instruction, effort and support.
The way I see it: There are many things in life that are physically painful and seemingly unbearable, but how many of those include a baby in your arms at the end?
(Note: I think there were only a few people commenting on that blog that pissed me off. For the most part the commenters were of like mind with myself.)
Posts
3 comments:
I witnessed my SIL refuse all medication and go from active labor to childbirth in less than an hour (much to her doctor's surprise) and my BF had no meds either, so it's definitely a choice. Don't let anyone tell you it can't be done or treat you like half-a-person for wanting to go that route. I couldn't read through all the comments of that article because quite frankly I think there were too many obnoxious, insensitive, ignorant people thinking they had a right to tell others what to do, feel and think.
Oh Sweetie I am so sorry you are getting crap about ANYTHING from anybody!!!
You have been so supportive of our path, and I hope I have been the same of yours?!
My path to adoption has actually made me waaaaay more sympathetic to people who go through multiple fertility attempts, because "just adopting" isn't any easier than "just do IVF" (or whatever other stupid ass thing people say).
When it comes to the path to parenthood, everyone has their own level of comfort, and it needs to be respected.
I think the thing that people forget is that childbirth is a personal experience and a personal choice for the mom. She should be allowed to chose whichever methods she wants and do so without the crappy judgment of others. We should all support each other's decisions, not slam them. Everyone deserves that right to make their own decisions, especially when it comes to childbirth - well put! I couldn't agree with you more.
Post a Comment